4 lost another going - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction ...

Hello .....

Not even sure where to start at, suppose I'll start with a little family background....
Grandparents suffered and died from alcoholism (car wreck DWI)
Father alcoholic suicide
Youngest brother drug addict / alcholic suicide
Oldest brother, the reason for my determination to not loose another to this disease, current alcoholic with severe progression in the past 2yrs

And then there is mom the enabler .... dad died when I was only 2, mom had the four of us to raise on $2.25per hr by herself, and she did, struggling each day to make ends meet and be home with us too. But she managed and is or was the absolutely strongest woman I know til recently.......

Since the loss of my youngest brother 3yrs ago things have really fallen apart.....
My mother has become very afraid, fragile, scared to say NO, which I can never understand what she is feeling with the loss of a child, I have one son and not sure I could survive without him.

My oldest brother has drank since I can remember, and has just progressed to 20+ beers per day since the loss of our youngest brother. He is no longer able to hold down a job for the "need" for alcohol, he has stolen from all of us to support his addicition, even down to stealing my mothers checks over drawing her account and leaving her without even the money to eat.
It has been a major struggle for us all to contend with. Mom buys his beer as he threatens suicide at least once a week, she is scared, no matter how many times he says it in elaborate details to her she can't say no due to she is scared to loose him, another child.

Recentlyfor about the past month for whatever reason he has acknowledged his addiction, he has become very emotional crying all the time, not sleeping, not eating, still threatens suicide, and begging for help. And he has never been an emotional person he always saw it as weakness and very seldomly cried.

Financially we are all struggling, with mom spending every thing she makes to support him and his addiction, and me trying to keep her car from being reposed and paying bad checks for her we are just at the bottom of the barrel scrapping by. And he is pleading for help !
Every avenue we have tried to get him help dead ends with something no insurance, no money, he doesn't have an DL/or ID and a has a warrant for a traffic violation b/c having alcohol was MORE important than paying his traffic fines, so we run into a road block there with any state funded programs, its just feels hopeless. I can see mom giving up more and more each day, her fight is gone, she is tired, each time we hit a road block it tears her down for days. And my brother goes from anger to sick to scared to crying and every extreme in between.

Today we made an appointment with another program praying to god this one comes through.

I have been reading a lot since I joined this group this is my first post I am very glad I found it ! Best wishes to everyone with your struggles, loses, and recovery this is one mean disease.

Hope to be posting an update soon that we found a program

Source: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-alcoholics/266077-4-lost-another-going.html

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